“We’re so busy watching out for what’s just ahead of us that we don’t take time to enjoy where we are.” – Bill Watterson

There’s a common misunderstanding that if we allow ourselves to feel happy about something, we’ll lose our drive to improve. That in order to reach our goals, we need to hard-wire ourselves 24/7 with thoughts of how to improve and develop. Ironically enough, full focus on the future is one of the most self-destructive things we can do to ourselves.

When we celebrate our victories, we feel good. On a biological level, there is a “dopamine” release. By feeling this emotion of accomplishment… we become hungry for more. We crave that next dopamine hit, moving even more aggressively towards that next accomplishment. On the other hand, if we constantly deprive ourselves of that dopamine response… we will lose our drive. This is the definition of burnout.

Take a moment today to think about how far you’ve come since last year. And since you’ve started this amazing lifestyle called CrossFit. No leaderboard will ever tell us the full story. While we maintain our fiery state of mind to find the next best version of ourselves, let’s celebrate today.

“You make a living with what you get. You make a life with what you give.” – Winston Churchill

Think back to a time in your life when you came in clutch for someone. One where your actions made a significant impact on someone’s life. Maybe it was a time where you showed up for a friend in a time of need. But you didn’t just show up… you went above and beyond. Not because of some expected return or alterior motive, but because you believed it was the right thing to do. You genuinely cared.

Think back to that day, and how that made you feel when you saw your impact. Think back to how it felt to know you made a difference. It felt good, didn’t it. Really, damn, good.

Science has shown us that one of the most powerful emotions we can feel, via serotonin, is released in mass at these moments. But what is even more interesting, is that it’s literally contagious. Think back to the last time you saw someone else doing something generous. Maybe it was as simple as holding the door open at the store for an elderly customer. Think back to that… How did you feel, witnessing that? Did it make you feel more generous?

If generosity is contagious, it just needs to be started.
Let it be us.
Be the change we want to see in this world.

“Don’t tell me who you are. Tell me what you are.”

When we are asked “who” we are, we default to our past. We define ourselves by our resumes. Although our past may give us insight of where we’ve been, it cannot be what defines us… for it’s the past.

When the question however asks “what” we are, we tend to give a different answer. We describe who we really are. It’s one of character, values and beliefs.

Will we be defined by who we’ve been in the past, or by what we stand for today? Let character be our loudest statement.

Daily Mindset

“I want to see it, before I believe it.”

We are visually oriented people.
We seem to trust our eyes more than our other senses.

It’s why we call our ultimate direction our “vision”. It’s why in the middle of the night, if we think we hear something, we want to take a look before we feel safe enough to fall back asleep. We can hear news through the grapevine, but we doubt it until we see it.

Recognizing this, we can leverage it to our advantage. Many of us will agree that there is power in writing down our goals, and this is why. We begin to believe it that much more. It feels that much more real.

Write down our vision. Write down our goals. Write down anything that is important, not because it’s a mundane task… but because we need to see it, before we believe it.

“Character is the willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life. It’s the source from which self-respect springs.” – Joan Didion

“Owning actions” often brings a somber tone to it.

We can adjust that, for the better.
And the quote above offers an angle on how we can do that.

Instead of carrying a “fault” theme, we can take a different lens to ownership. That of positive control.

Take for example “not getting the job”.

We can decide that we won’t own it, and say something along the lines of “the recruiter was just playing favorites”. From this point, where does one go next? Are we qualified enough, and for reasons outside of our control… we just didn’t get the job? And that if the same thing happens tomorrow, we’re doomed for a repeat?

Now let’s flip. Let’s say the same person decides they will own “not getting the job”.
They decide that they want to become over-qualified. They sign up for the next course to push their accreditation to the next level, resulting in an even stronger, smarter, and more powerful candidate.

One person has control over the next step, and uses it to their advantage.
One does not, and stays exactly where they are.

We owe it to ourselves to stay in the driver seat.

“People don’t fear change. People fear sudden change. People fear revolutions. People don’t fear evolutions.” – Simon Sinek

When we sit on this quote for a moment, we can draw a parallel to a recent experience.

Think back to a recent experience that was full of change. Was it uncomfortable? Of course it was.

Now take that same experience and pretend as if those changes were briefed to you on January 1st, and they steadily took place over the course of the calendar year. Would it feel different? 

I think so too.

The underlying message is that we don’t fear change. We only fear the speed of change. When we are able to take a step back and see the “uncomfortableness” for what it is, we can find a stronger perspective.

Remind ourselves of this the next time change elicits that unique feeling in our stomach.
For awareness, as always, is the key.

“It takes as much energy to wish, as it does to plan.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

The term “wishful thinking” is a bit of a broken statement. It’s the creation of an elaborate vision, a goal or something we want to reach… but without a plan.

What Eleanor Roosevelt suggests in her quote is to stop day-dreaming, and bring those goals into reality through action steps. And if we can do that, we quickly remind ourselves that we are literally problem-solving-machines. Things kick into gear, and we surprise ourselves. We’ll say things like, “well, that wasn’t so bad” or “that was actually easier than I thought!”

Ever have a hard time starting to clean the house? The trick everyone knows… is to just start.
To take that actual first step, and create momentum.

Let’s reinforce this in our minds:
We weren’t made to wish.
We were made to act.

“Give more. Give what you didn’t get. Drop the old story.” – Unknown

Self-identity is a weapon. A weapon that can be on either side of the trench.

When we think about this quote, we might be thinking of our past. And if you’re human, chances are that at some point in your life you held onto a “bad memory”. It would manifest into our daily lives in a unique way, and potentially frequently. 

Every individual and experience is different, yet there is a commonality at the bottom line of all of ours… that here today, we can continue to be impacted by them.

Think about the way you think.
Who is directing our lives?
Will we let it be the past, or should we be the ones writing the story?
It is never too late to pick up the pen.

The past does not define who we have to be today.
Be the change you want to see.

“If you want to be truly successful at it, you cannot be content with pretty good.” – Tim Grover

Pretty good is decent.
Pretty good is average.
Pretty good checks the box.
Pretty good… is the enemy of excellent.

How we do anything is how we do everything. And there is nothing in life worth doing half-assed. Although we recognize the truth behind that statement, every single one of us can improve on this. 

What actions this week have been “pretty good”?
When these opportunities come around next week, what will we do differently?

“People used to tell me that business administration is for the practical life and that philosophy is for the spirit. Through the years I found it is exactly the opposite. I used philosophy much more practically.” – Herzi Halevi

Herzl Halevi, an Israeli general, recounts his foundation that he stands upon.
Through the unending series of ethical decisions he has faced, in war or in peace, he used his foundation to bring prioritization, balance, and clarity.

Every single one of us will do the same, in our own unique way. We’ll choose a foundation.
A core set of beliefs that form a lens we operate through.

It is important to recognize that this doesn’t happen by accident.
It is a conscious choice, and a forever study, of our chosen mindset.
What is your foundation?